Lisa Kudrow stars in this episode of Web Therapy as Fiona a passive aggressive web therapist of gets flattered when her pacient makes a surprinsingly personal breakthrough.

Posted on May 14, 2010

How To Get It On – Video

Author: areyoupop | Filed under: totally free dating

Posted on May 13, 2010

signs of passive aggressive behavior

Unfortunately, it is only after a few months into a relationship when we start to notice irrational or even contradictory behavior in our partner. This behavior of cold and hot is known as passive-aggressive. The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]

  • Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
  • Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control.
  • Fear of competition
  • Fear of dependency
  • Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often can’t trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
  • Making chaotic situations
  • Making excuses
  • Obstructionism
  • Sulking
  • Victimization response: instead of recognizing one’s own weaknesses.

A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.

Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com

Image source : http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/

Posted on May 12, 2010

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Scientists have now looked at MHC (Major Histocompatibility Complex) compatibility among romantic couples and they report that the more genes in this system that a couple share, the more sexually unfaithful the woman is and the more she is attracted to other men during in the middle of her menstrual cycle—when she is ovulating and likely to get pregnant.

Scientist now have hard proven data that shows women are more likely to cheat on men the more compatible genes they have. In a smelling t-shirt test women chose men’s t-shirt based on BO. I can only imagine women sitting next to each other along a long table passing sweaty t-shirts and comparing notes … (vomit);

Test Subject Woman #5 – “Mmmhh … this one smells like cheese … wait a minute, it actually smells like sour lipton soup with a hint of sweaty balls. Yes, I’m attracted to this one t-shirt”

Of course the menstrual cycle plays a role in increasing the chances for a woman to cheat especially in the middle of her menstrual cycle – when she is ovulating and likely to get pregnant.
Summarizing, women are more likely to cheat on their partners when;

  • She has highly compatible genes to her partner and
  • In the middle of her cycle
  • When there is exotic foreign man sweating while lifting weights or salsa dancing

These observations leads me to the next topic;
How to Avoid Having Your Wife Cheat on You
Here are a few points to remember;

  1. Very important; DON’T MARRY YOUR COUSIN
  2. Tell her you love her in the middle of her cycle and have crazy sex with her
  3. Don’t let her go salsa dancing at that club. Her nose is going to drive her crazy
  4. Sign her up to an all women gym. This one is optional

Reference : helenfisher.typepad.com

img by: flickr.com

Posted on May 7, 2010

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Most people read tons of magazines and books. Most guys read about literature, cars, newspapers, science, technology, psychology, philosophy, Greek philosophy, European philosophy, politics, who thinks this or that, and what’s happening here and there.

Information, information, information

Unfortunately, our society teaches us to consume information; useful and useless information.

We are taught to accumulate knowledge whether it is interesting to us or not. We stop listening when we fill our brains with information.

Most men accumulate great quantities of information, these are the good guys. They want to be praised and admired by how much information they know even if it is not actionable.

Where am I going with this? Having an amazing memory not necessarily means that you gonna get the girl. Remember the bad boy? How does he do it? He does know nothing, he has no conversation topics but he still gets the girl.

STOP selling your memory and start taking action.

Which action?

Talk a little 20%, Listen 80%

Posted on May 6, 2010
totally free dating - Six Rules to Improve your Relationships
We all want to improve our relationships and dating. Most likely, if you are a guy, you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do -

By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that have simplified and improved my social life tremendously.

First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.

Is Human Misery Funny?

Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.

During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.

Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.

- I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle -

Six Basic Rules of Improvisation

In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.

Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.

As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.

So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation - The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;

  • Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”

Example:

- Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
- You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.

  • Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.

Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.

  • Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.

Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?

Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?

  • Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
  • Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
  • Why is your partner moving away from you?
  • Why did she use a questioning tone?
  • What did the slight smile mean?
  • How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?

Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).

  • Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than:
You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
  • Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of ecstasy and stagnation.

Dancing

Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.

Improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.

Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.

Posted on May 3, 2010

It has been tough for some of my male friends to read the signs women send when they are loosing interest. One of them asked me, – “how can I tell when the passion is gone? Is it when she start complaining about my socks on the floor?” You are asking me? I have no clue – I thought. But, here are seven signs to watch for;

  1. She finds you annoying
  2. You get a list of all your faults … and then some.
  3. You try to get the magic back. But … she is not really into magic anymore.
  4. Things don’t make sense. Ok, this one is tricky because most of the time they don’t.
  5. Now … she is gay. Mmmmh, she never complained before.
  6. Start finding weird dead things
  7. Everything is drama and you don’t care anymore

My dear friend, watch this funny video about “How to tell when a relationship is over”.

Posted on Apr 30, 2010

differences gender

Vixen: Poison for Your Relationship is a comic that evolved out of conversation at “Girls’ Night” at the Southern Sun in Boulder, CO.

My friend Karen* had an ex in town with whom she was trying to make a decision about moving forward. He was from out of town and she was considering moving to be closer to him. He flew out for the weekend and on Saturday night they partied a little too hard. The next day he was violently ill. He retched for three hours non-stop until Karen eventually had to take him to the emergency room. Karen had to run an borrow a car as they had left hers downtown the night before, too drunk to drive home. In some ways this left her in a position of power as he was debilitated and she was taking care of him.

It was from this place that the idea of Vixen: Poison for Your Relationship evolved. In the end of Karen’s story, the ex told her it would be too much pressure on him if she were to move closer, so the idea of “Vixen” became even more delicious.

Sarah Thompson – Comic Art and Content

Posted on Apr 29, 2010

differences gender

Ever wondered why does she take so long in the shower? Ever wondered what does he do in the bathroom? Here is the answer to those mysteries, or differences in gender, of life.

In summary;

women – take off cloths. place it in sectioned laundry hamper according to lights and darks
men – take off clothes while sitting on the edge of the bed and leave them in a pile

women – walk to bathroom wearing long dressing gown
men – walk to the bathroom naked

women – if you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas
men – if you see wife along the way, shake wiener at her making the “woo-woo” sound

women – look at your womanly physique in the mirror
men – admire the size of your wiener and scratch your ass

women – make mental note to do more sit-ups, leg-lifts, etc. adjust breasts
men – look at your manly physique in the mirror

women – Turn on shower
men – Turn on shower

women – wash your face with crushed apricot facial scrub for 10 minutes until red
men – Wash face

women – use face cloth, arm cloth, leg cloth, long loofah, wide loofah and pumice stone
men – Spend majority of time washing privates

women – wash your hair once with cucumber and sage shampoo with 43 added vitamins
men – Blow your nose in your hands and let the water rinse them off

women – wash your hair again to make sure it’s clean.
men – Fart and laugh at how loud it sounds in the shower

women – condition your hair with grapefruit mint conditioner enhanced with real passionfruit. rinse conditioner off hair
men – Wash your hair. Make a Shampoo Mohawk

women – shave armpits and legs
men – Wash your butt, leaving those coarse butt hairs stuck on the soap. Pee

women – get out of shower and stand directly on bathmat
men – Rinse off and get out of shower. Avoid bathmat. Fail to notice water on floor because curtain was hanging out of tub the whole time. Leave shower curtain open, wet mat on floor, light and fan on.

women – dry with towel the size of a small country
men – Dry off foreamrs and butt only

women – spray mold spots with Tilex
men – Draw a penis on the fogged mirror

women – squeegee off all wet surfaces in shower
men – Then draw boobs so you feel manly

women – return to bedroom wearing long dressing gown and towel on head
men – If you pass wife, pull off towel, shake wiener at her and make the ‘woo-woo’ sound again. Throw wet towel on bed

image by flickr

Posted on Apr 28, 2010

Why Women Stay Single

Author: areyoupop | Filed under: differences gender

It is always fascinating to observe human behavior. In a relationship, once pass the courtship stage most men start feeling perhaps too comfortable. This is when women begin to re-consider staying single.

Can I vomit now?

Posted on Apr 27, 2010